EXPECTATIONS NEVER HURTS!!!

Expectations !! This is  our next post.. this post was suggested to me by my friend Mrs. Afaf afdhal and I thank her for that because expectations often kills people around the world.
How do we deal with this ? Well ! I have got some life experience  about dealing with it to a greater extent. What do you mean by expectations? Is it our strong belief that something will happen.. ? Well, it is. We always keep high expectations in life. When it comes to me.. yes, i do keep expectations in life but not on people ..I keep expectations on my achievements , effort and the power in me. It's okay, if those expectations disappoints you. Because you have at least tried afterall. You had put effort. You have learned something new in life. It's not wrong to keep expectations on people but before you do understand people perceive only want  they want to perceive. 
Or act according to their character or behaviour.
People are dynamic but not our consistent efforts. One of my friend's(Amina lubi)grandmom suggested her that it's completely ok to high expectations dear, but when your expectations meet the desired  target, never fall into that illusion because when your expectations doesn't meet at some point of life you ll never be able to handle that little failure. Always keep positive expectations in life. When you start appreciating every little thing in life you never be disappointed for anything. Negative expectations tend to put you into dungeon in life.
EXPECTATIONS NEVER HURTS, IT'S YOUR PERSPECTIVES.

 

Your Chance

Life always offers you a second chance and
that's called tomorrow.
There are 3 C's in our life and those are
Change, Chance, Choice. Our post this month is all about Chance. How change, chance and choice related? When change happens in our life, we take chances and those chances determines our choice or destination sometimes. Well, how this relates to positivity?  The chances that you take in life has a lot to do with positivity. Some chances has negative impact and others positive. So, how do we know these chances we took are negative or positive. Well ! that's simple, those chances you took made you happy are obviously positive and made you regret are negative. I wanted you to understand a simple thing,if you don't go for it now when ll you ? Think, we have got only one life and what's the use of simply wasting our time by not experiencing a change by taking a chance.. I ll never tell you to go for something that your instincts warns u not to.. but go for those little things in life that you love to experience..maybe you can create your own happiness out there.. Later, let's not regret for the chances we didn't take..Remember life always gives us a second chance called tomorrow ...always utilise that chance..because there isn't going to be a third chance.. if I tell you about myself..before my stroke.. I always wanted to do something different in life..but I didn't take any risk...but now after my stroke ..I really wanted to share my experiences or perspective with the world out there..so here I am... always take chances in life..nothing goes waste because either way you are going to learn something new in life.. life is about your choices and chances.. grab those opportunities in life.. because live and enjoy those little moments life offers you.. happiness comes from within..create it.. let's not bother about succeeding.. It's all about experiencing..feeling.. let's not quibble about every detail in life.. Don't ever regret 4 the negative impact..what matters is your experience..you have got something to share with others..you have learned..Take chances as if there's no tomorrow for you..

Wind of Change

Our next topic is about Change. Change is an important factor. All of us changes, and our life
too ultimately changes sometimes. Some changes are unacceptable to us, and that leads to negativity. It's difficult for our mind to accept change. Everyone thinks of changing others,but none of us thinks of changing ourselves. Before you think of changing others, think at least once are you accepting the change that had happened in your life. Change causes disruptions and these disruptions can lead one to negative impact. Change is part of everyone's life. Some changes are unexpected, but every changes in our life teach us a lesson or changes our way or perspective towards life. If I share my experience, stroke was an unexpected change of my life. During initial stages, I  was unable to accept the fact that my left side is paralysed. But later, I saw people who underwent amputation, children with cerebral palsy. I understood I am blessed to a greater extent. That has finally changed my perspective towards life in whole.
At times we think from a smaller scale or smaller  perspective. Always think of those who weaker than us. These change that had happened in your life will have smaller impact on your mind. Don't be afraid of change. Every change is new beginning of our life. One bad chapter in your life doesn't mean it's the end. This change is going to take you into a new journey in life  believe in yourself, before you oppose the change in your life. It's a second chance in life for you to view things differently. Don't be serious always. Go with a flow, laugh out loud, adapt to
uncertainties. Even without your knowledge your life will be in peace and harmony. For every positive change in your life,  something else also change for better... It's a chain reaction..

NEVER SAY NEVER

This time our post is about Never say Never. You might be thinking why ? Because the word No is much more powerful than the word Yes. The more you repeat Yes the more you turns positive,but a single No can turn you into negative. I'm thankful to my physiotherapist Dr. Aftab Hussain(Tabaz physiotherapy )for teaching me this. During my initial consultation periods with him,I had  faced great difficulty in extending my fingers. So when he asks me to do it,I tells him No Doctor,I don't think I can. He replies me you're not supposed to tell the word no from this moment onwards. Just say you can. This never made any sense for me during those days. But now it certainly does because I am able to move my fingers to greater extent. I learned from that.. no matter how hard it gets or how hard it's going to be..one must have the determination to make it happen without giving up. Because giving up is an easy task than Surviving even when the storm hits you. So my friends,never say never. If you can dream it,you can do it. I never suggest you to  say yes to someone whom you don't want to cooperate with. That's completely up to you. But when it comes your dreams and aspirations never turn back or give up. You are capable of much more than you think. Never regret in life for your actions. That actions taught you greater lessons and made you a better individual. Stay strong.. let the warrior inside you raise high. It's time for you to achieve. The only person who can raise you high is you. Don't let yourself down,raise up. 

YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU BELIEVE..

Our next blog post is here.Today Iam starting with a short inspirational story most of us has heard of. "The Elephant and the rope." Once a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

Your mind is like a parachute,it won't work unless you open it. Your belief makes you who you are and how you see life. Remember the only person who can convince and push you out of your negative zone  is YOU. No one else can do it. Nothing is impossible for you once you start believing in yourself. Walk out of your negative zone and motivate yourself to achieve your goal. Try motivating yourself in whatever you do,you can see how things change in your life. 

I motivate myself when I am lost,because I am pretty sure I can only do it for myself  and no one else will ever do it for me. Even if someone did,how far they can convince you and your mind. No one can help you out of the dungeon you created in your mind other than you. Self appraisal and motivation can boost confidence and self esteem. Moreover it helps you walk out of your negative zone. Remind yourself the only person who can convince you is You. Never give up just because you failed at it once before like an elephant. Trust yourself. 

Power

My apologies for this late post to all my readers. This month our post is about Power. What's power? Is that Physical strength ? No,I am here to discuss with you about the most strongest part of an individual. That's our Mind. Yes, Mental power. How can you gain this strength. Well,that's not an easy task. Usually humans keep high expectations. That's the reason they are  showing disappointment for a single failure or downfall in life. Expectations are necessary. But along with that one must train his mind for acceptance. To accept what God gave for us. It's difficult,do you know why? Because we're individuals who keep focusing  on what we have lost and not what we have gained. COUNT ON YOUR BLESSINGS MY DEAR FRIENDS. Does focusing on what we have lost give us back something? No. Think what's next. When you keep your next step focusing on your dreams. I'm telling you that moment you're successful. What's lost is lost,let it be. Losses are part of life. But always train your mind to ACCEPT it. Only then you can move out of negative zone. Train your mind for that power. Remember your body can withstand almost anything,but mind can't. CONVINCE YOUR MIND. Train your mind same as how your train your body. YOUR ILLNESS DOESN'T DEFINE YOU,YOUR STRENGTH AND COURAGE DOES.

Gratitude turns what you have into ENOUGH..

Here is my next post.. Today my post is something we all must practice in our day to day lives and that's about Gratitude. How many of you knew that we all are blessed ones. We are blessed by the almighty to a greater extent.  The truth is that we tend to live in the future than present,and run after the illusionary world. We never thank God rather we complaint to God about our insufficiencies. We must understand one fact to live in this realistic world,no one is perfect. If you feel your friend is happier than you,know that it's his way of showing happiness in front of others. Maybe he ll be undergoing 'n' number of issues in life. It's just he chooses to be happy in front of others. Don't feel sad, because your testimony is different from that of others. Be patient. I sincerely express my gratitude to my physiotherapist Dr.Aftab Hussain (Tabaz physiotherapy and rehabilitation centre) and to my neurologist Dr. Rajesh Nair (PVS hospital,cochin) and my parents for giving me a second chance in life. It's not just them to each and every one I met through out this 2 years journey of my stroke period.  When you see people suffering serious diseases and encountering all that with their       will power,you're blessed. Don't complaint about those little things that you don't have. Out there, lot of people suffer from amputation..cancer and lot more. Be happy with your life. Always thank God for your life. When you lose something,God ll certainly give you something better than that. Your struggles ll certainly be rewarded one day. Good things comes to those who wait. Be patient,maybe it's not your time yet...but one day you ll certainly receive what you wished for. But make sure you're thankful to God for what you have before you pursue what you want. Before you go to bed, make it practice to thank for your blessings in life. Live in the present and be grateful for all those little things you possess.

"You're a Masterpiece"

This is my second post of this month,I usually post once in a month. This one I read today morning and I felt like sharing it with my readers to induce a positive thinking. I hope you love this post. Remember you're just amazing the way you are!😊

“You are a Masterpiece”

       What an elevating speech
          by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

“A plum once said, ‘just because a banana lover came by, I converted myself into a banana. Unfortunately, his taste changed after a few months and so I became an orange. When he said I was bitter I became an apple, but he went in search of grapes. Yielding to the opinions of so many people, I have changed so many times that I no more know who I am.  How I wish I had remained a plum and waited for a plum lover.’

Just because a group of people do not accept you as you are, there is no necessity for you to strip yourself of your originality. You need to think good of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate.  Never stoop down in order to gain recognition. Never let go of your true self to win a relationship. In the long run, you will regret that you traded your greatest Glory – your uniqueness, for momentary validation. Even Gandhi was not accepted by many people. The group that does not accept you as YOU is not Your world.

There is a world for each one of you, where you shall reign as king /queen by just being yourself. Find that world… In fact, that world will find You.

What water can do, gasoline cannot and what copper can, gold cannot.  The fragility of the ant enables it to move and the rigidity of the tree enables it to stay rooted. Everything and everybody has been designed with a Proportion of uniqueness to serve a purpose that we can fulfill only by being our unique self. You as you alone can serve your purpose and I as I alone can serve my purpose.  You are here to be you… Just YOU.

There was a time in this world when a Krishna was required and he was sent; A time when a Christ was required and he was sent; a time when a Mahatma was required and he was sent;  There came a time when you were required on this planet and hence you were sent. Let us be the best we can be.

In the history of the universe, there has been nobody like you and to the infinity of time to come, there will be no one like you.  Existence should have loved you so much that it broke the mould after making you, so that another of your kind will never get repeated.

You are original.
You are rare.
You are unique.
You are a wonder.
You are a masterpiece. ..

☄👆

The prettiest thing that you can wear.. 😊😊

My next post is about smile. Smile is always treated as a positive sign.  Smile is a universal language as we all knew. Most of us often forget to smile due to our busy life. We are always stressed out,we often forget to cherish little things that are significant to us. Cherishing little things and old memories that's significant  can often bring back smile on our face. Let me tell you it's priceless,it won't cost you millions. Smile often it makes your day bright and alive. Challenges are part of everyone's life,but that shouldn't erase your smile. I always hold a smile on my face, it's just because I don't like letting my emotions out in front of everyone..at times letting your emotions out is healthy but not everytime. Our smile can be the reason for happiness in someone's life. I don't tell you life ll be always happy, but  happiness  surely is in our hand. If you choose to be happy,hold a smile..because it can makes you feel more happier. When I enter my physiotherapy centre, everyone over there had seen me till today as an happy smiling young girl. Due to that I see smile on their faces when I enter there,I transmit a positive energy to them,it's just because I choose to be happy and I often smiles.  YOUR FACE IS INDEX OF  YOUR MIND. People often judge you by your face. Facial expressions reveal a lot.  Bring back that little boy or girl who holds that innocent smile,let the world falls in love with your smile. But never let that world change your smile..but let your smile to change the world. The most postive energy that you can wear everyday  as well as transmits to others...SMILE. "Say Cheezeeeee" always. ..✌✌😉😉😊😊

Which one you should choose?

My next blog post is about our choices.  Choices in life. What would you choose, a satisfied life or a successful life? This is a significant question lot of us face today. Both has impact on our thinking. The more successful one becomes..the more confident you turns out to be. On the other hand,the more satisfied you becomes. .the more happier & optimistic you turns. So what should one choose?  It's a great dilemma. Why don't one choose both..n maintain a equilibrium. So here's our next dilemma. .how to maintain that..?  For some,including myself. .I strive hard to be on top in my life. My achievements makes me satisfied and happy. So in that case success is a factor for a satisfied life. Not all of them are same..some people choose satisfied life more than succeeding in life. Let's make our point clear, how should one maintain this.
Everyone has an individual limit. Stay there. If you keep on running behind success. You might fail to enjoy the beauty of the present moment. So stay in your limits. Strive a little harder to succeed then stay in your limits, so that you can enjoy the beauty of present moment. The more you focus on attaining to make your future better..the less satisfaction you derive in your present. That can lead to pessimistic attitude. So follow your dreams..by enjoying the beauty of your present moments. So that you ll not regret ever in life.

What's wrong with just being you?

Why is it necessary to be yourself 4 being optimistic. .what's the connection between being oneself and positivity? There's a lot of connections..when you're being yourself without  pretending to be someone else. .you ll be confident.. Confidence plays an important role in our attitude.. you don't need to be perfect. .because God is only the one who is perfect. .no human beings are perfect till now... .don't pretend. . Most of us are worried about what others wil think about us.. the truth is that people no matter, what people ll judge you.. they flood in their criticism just to hide their flaws..one shouldn't feel dejected or deprived  due to that..rather they must try to polish their character by improving themselves and take only positive points out of that..that will not only helps you to build peace of mind with yourself but also with others.. Never change so that people will like you,just be yourself and the right people ll love you. One should first be honest to themselves, then only they can live without regrets and be confident in their decisions. Why do you want to pretend. A flower doesn't think of competing with the flowers .It just blooms no matter what. Bloom yourself. Always believe  in your inner beauty. It takes courage to be who you are in a world that tells you to be someone else. Every day is a chance to improve yourself and to be who you are.  Never apologise for showing your feelings and never regret for being who you're truly. Feelings are meant to be shown and never feel bad for letting your emotions and feelings. It's just another way of showing who you really are.

When you're content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete,everyone will respect you.
                                -Lao Tzu

Being strong isn't an option, it's a necessity

Here is my next blog post..being strong isn't an option, it's a necessity. So what's actually being strong?  Is it physical strength?  No.. it's mental strength. Courage isn't inborn.
It's actually gained or developed out of our experiences. People says standing alone can make one strong. Everyone had gone through  solitude phase once in their life. We wish if others could understand us. How can you change someone's preception ,when you can't change yourself?  What do we do to change ourselves.. the only way to do is face everything courageously.  If you're alone and the world is against you,then you are certainly doing something right. So don't let loneliness kills you,let it make you stronger than ever. Everyone is bold in their own way. .for example a person maybe  afraid of heights but his friend maybe not afraid of it he maybe scared of darkness whereas that person won't be.
If god believes in your abilities he doesn't solve your problems. If you believe in God's abilities, you don't have problems in your life.
Without problems you don't know how strong you are. So problems are actually a blessing in life. Face it with courage.  Those who does that will be fruitfully rewarded by the almighty one day. Tell yourself you're bold than ever,you CAN do it. The power of mental strength(will power) transforms you into a different you.
I am thankful to all those who said NO to me,it's because of them iam doing it myself today. It's easy to stand among the crowd,but it takes courage to stand alone.  God loves those who  takes up his challenges and fights in life courageously, not the one's who are coward and giving up easily. All challenges makes us stronger. Uncertainties are common in everyone's life.. but turning those uncertainties into certainties, definitely needs courage..they're the ones who succeed in life.

Dreams

A famous quote by Lord Krishna in Bhagvat Gita "If you don't fight for what you want,don't cry for what you lost"

Today my post is about dreams. Actually what are dreams?  Is it just a mere series of thoughts,images and sensations occurring in a one's mind during our sleep ? NO, it's more than that. Its not at all wrong to dream high. It's all about how one achieve those dreams. It's sometimes good to build castles on sky. Your dreams defines the person in YOU & where you want to be in life. Once if you fail,it doesn't mean you lost everything.Always,God has better plans for you. If you give up once in life,you ll always remain failure. Rather strive hard,until you succeed. Before you give up,think how far you ll be in the next year if you don't. Never give up on your dreams. I turned my can'ts into cans and my dreams into plans.Don't dream your life,live your dreams. When I was hospitalized with brain stroke, I felt it's all over,I failed in life,I can't achieve anything any more. But my dreams were so high.I always wanted to do something different from others. My mind whispered to me there's still a chance left "don't give up".I am still alive,yet another chance in life,what more do I need.In the end,we only regret the chances we didn't take. Choice not Chance determines destiny.All our dreams can come true,if we have courage to pursue them.  dream doesn't become reality through magic,it takes sweat,determination and  hard-work.Don't tell people your dreams,SHOW THEM! That's were your strength & courage lies.If you want to achieve heights,first give up everything that weighs you down. Try to devote yourself to an idea, go make it happen, struggle on it,overcome your fears,smile,don't forget that's your dream.There's going to be times when people tell you that you can't. Live your dreams. This is what I want to tell you guys,"NEVER SAY NEVER".Do something each day to bring you a little closer to your dreams. Your dreams doesn't have an expiration date until you succeed. Take a deep breathe and try again. Always chase your dreams,then you ll catch them. Shoot for the moon always,even if you land among the stars ,it's okay.

THE RAYS OF HOPE ARE ALWAYS PRESENT EVEN IN THE DARKEST HOUR.

"Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we don't see."

         - Hebrews 11:1

HOPE...

        Sometimes that's all you have,when you have nothing else. If you have it, you have everything. Hope is an optimistic attitude of mind based on expectation or desire. One must always believe in sharing our blessings. Everyone is equally blessed,if some one is blessed with more goodness by God,the only reason behind that is because we ll share those extra blessings with less fortunate ones. That's a kind of hope or belief god has in us. Whenever we face hurdles in our life,we always tend to  question to God 'WHY ME?' . Well, "Why Should anyone?" . When we achieve in life, we never question God "WHY ME?". So why are we questioning and blaming God when we fail. Why do we feel hopeless?

We feel hopeless because we no longer has faith in his powers.If our faith and hope can get us through what we are facing,we can get through anything.When everything else fails, there is only a single rope you can hold on to, that's HOPE. Why do you  feel hopeless when you are blessed with everything else in life. It's just matter of time, when we hope with a true heart, nothing can let us down.You never run out of options,if you have hope. Our Hope is the only thing that make us live another day. When we go to bed every night, we makes plan for the next day,that's a sign we hope for a tomorrow. When we can hope for a tomorrow, why are we not hoping about anything else in life. When you dream with hope, you automatically become successful.Hopes never disappoints us. Never lose hope, you never know what tomorrow may bring. When you stop believing in hope, you stop believing in God.  Just because something isn't happening for you right now ,doesn't means that it ll never happen. Miracles happens every day. Hopeful thinking helps you to get out of fear and it leads to your appreciation zone. In the darkest hours of your life, you ll only have rays of hope that this phase ll soon vanish. None of us tend to learn how to Count on our blessings. We always complaint about little things in life,we never think of those less fortunate ones out there. If you don't know how to count on your blessings,never complaint about little things in life that you can't achieve. Never say you feel hopeless,when something isn't happening for you now, everything has its own time. Be hopeful  and patient, then though slowly everything ll come to you. When there's life, there's hope. So if you start losing it, you no longer live a life. Hope is a part of our immortality; we hope on, and we hope forever. When the whole world says us to Give up, Hope whispers TRY AGAIN.The ability to hope and without giving up,you fight for what you want in life,nothing is as sweet as its success and achievement. We must accept finite disappointments, but never lose infinite hope. I still hope because that makes me alive n fight even more stronger each day.It's not that Iam not sad, I always hope that the best is yet to come.

Be hopeful in life because that's the only thing that lift up your spirits to positivity.

THE RAYS OF HOPE ARE ALWAYS PRESENT EVEN IN THE DARKEST HOUR. THAT'S ONLY TRUTH.

HAPPINESS STARTS WITH YOU :)

Iam a girl who dreams a lot & strive hard to be on top & succeed..but as the saying human plans GOD deposes.. so there came a turning point in my life..in the form of BRAIN STROKE while I was 21. But I think that made me more positive & succeed in life more than ever. Since I had met a lot of people after this incident, I always noticed very few of them seems to be positive majority cultivated negative thoughts. So here is a page where you can share your worries n stay positive & smiling always. Happiness starts within you..from you.. not from your parents or love or money or friends. Its from You. You must  decide or makeup your mind to be happy not anyone else. If you decide to be happy, you ll be always happy. Only small percent others can contribute towards your happiness,but most of us tends to believe they make us happy. NO,not them,when our desires are satisfied by others,we automatically turns out to be happy. When you feel low think of your achievements,joyful moment and everything else that turns you feel better. No 1 can motivate you other than you. Don't put key to your happiness in someone's else pocket & blame them. Even God can't make you happy,if you don't decide. God is a supernatural power that exists within us,our good deeds make us God. He exists within us. So who are responsible for your deeds,happiness... YOU.  

Well. here comes another year 2017, we're running late for a change..lets start to change ourselves. A good change in form of a positive attitude,positive mind set. Face is the index of mind,let our face consist of smile,that can change a person's day sometimes,let's smile broadly than ever.