Balancing wheel

2018 is coming to an end.. for me, it was indeed a beautiful year of new achievements.. new experiences.. i learned new lessons on survival..
I would like to share a small instance that i came across during a visit to my neighbourhood recently..
A small boy was learning how to ride a bicycle.. after continuously failing to learn the technique to ride it.. his father fixed balanced wheel on the bicycle.. slowly his fear of loosing balance and falling down reduced.. he learned to ride it.. he became an expert in it with balancing wheels, but one day his father suggested him to ride without those wheels..
Poor fellow! He was scared..Next day his father removed those wheels.. he begged his dad not to remove those wheels, but his dad was stubborn in his decision. He somehow grabbed a little confidence and decided to go for it..
He peddled.. he rode the bicycle quite efficiently than before.
Some things are similar to this bicycle story,
few things are beyond our fear...It's not necessary that every time you ll be able to balance every little detail of life, sometimes you have to leave it your inner magic called optimistic attitude to turn things into your favour.
It's quite natural we ll lose some thing somewhere in this profound journey called life..
But that shouldn't be the end of your run, keep running ahead by believing in the magic called YOU.
Be faithful to that is within yourself..
YOU'RE SPECIAL
HONOUR YOURSELF..

NOTHING CAN SUBSTITUTE EXPERIENCE

Experience is the best teacher.

One of the most powerful quote in human life. You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. Some days are just bad days, that's all. Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.
Some experiences turns out to be really worst and unpredictable in our lives. These sudden changes and experiences leads us to lots of issues such as depression, trauma, anxiety etc.
I don't know how to deal with these mental illness. But we can surely prevent it from impacting our lives . Lots of people overlook experience as a huge pessimistic factor. It's just due to their incapability to handle such experiences and it's outcomes. Well, let's start taking experiences and challenges as a better of learning something new for widening our horizon. Not just our body needs to be healthy , our mind and thoughts must be more healthy, for that one must broaden and change their thinking into really a new perspective.

 If you are thirsty for enhancing knowledge, first view your experience as a platform to learn and rethink for a arriving at a better outcome. In order to experience life, accept challenges and risk. The moment you accept, you ll understand the ups and downs of life. Let whatever be the outcome of that challenging experience, you have Learned something out of it. That's how you should feel optimistic.The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. It's not hard, well not easy too. Positive life attracts positive thoughts and positive experiences. Have stories to tell, not stuffs to show. 

HELP YOURSELF

I saw her broad smile and happiness. She was filled with hope once again in her life that she could be independent. She holded my hands and gestured me I saw her broad smile and happiness. She was filled with hope once again in her life that she could be independent. She holded my hands and gestured me THANK YOU SISTER and she gestured something else too, i wasn't able to understand that. She wished to talk to me rather than this sign language but there are things that we mortal humans can't help about other than God himself. I don't know why, it was for the first time in my life, i was experiencing that kind of happiness in me. I understood I may not be able to change the whole world , but definitely I was able to change her life. The positive energy she transmitted to me was huge. I realised I made a huge change in her life with the help of my great hearted physiotherapist Dr.Aftab Hussain  and my parents.
Placing one's happiness in your hand before your's makes you more optimistic than ever.
When we leave one day, all we will have to hold onto ll be other's grateful smile.
Help each other and you ll feel grateful to yourself for being educated. Being literate means being more humane. The greatest positive note for existence is help people around you..Don't walk away feeling it's not your responsibility..Maybe Your Time and smile could change their life forever. See them smile. Concluding this month's post by praying to God for her fast recovery. Would love to see her mounting the heights of success in life.
Sometimes we may not be able to contribute hugely for others, but a little effort from our part could change their life and our's. Sharing your little joy with them or giving up it for them helps you to attain optimism and boosts morale within you.
You have got two hands, one for helping yourself and other one for helping others, help yourself.
IT'S A GREAT GIFT TO HELP OTHERS
ACHIEVE THEIR DREAMS.

Failure is just a comma not full stop.

Failure is stepping stone to success..
Well , that's what exactly happened to me and I strongly believe it ll continue, I shall raise.
For myself and my family, I was just an average above girl in academics. Nor me or my parents believed that i will outcast toppers of my family in academics. This happened during that time, I made my parents believe that I am failure. I failed in my 10th pre boards in biology. Better not to discuss the reaction and consequences of mental trauma I had to face after that. All I remembered was I failed and my peers started to treat me like one.
But after so many years, when I look back what I am feeling is that it was just a part of my success story. From that failure to succeed as an overall topper in 12 th grade and being a silver medalist for graduation.
Setting that aside, one of my most remarkable achievement is recovering from haemorrhage.
FAILURE IS PART OF SUCCESS..
SUCCESS INTRODUCES YOU TO THE WORLD
AND FAILURE INTRODUCES YOU THE WORLD.
Let's not demotivate ourselves just because of a failure in life. Treat it like a experience for your yet upcoming success storyline. Hit the bull's eye. Only those who knew the taste of failure can fully extract the joy of success.

Failure is not as bad as it seems in fact if you look at it with positive attitude it only teaches you about where you went wrong. Failure never means giving up because it does not signify the end of everything. Failure is never a full stop because it never ends anything it only means comma after which a new era will start. Every person fails at some point in their lives even the most successful ones.

Mistakes make you better than before

This time our post is about Mistakes. Making mistakes is common among us. We all keep on committing mistakes but only a few of us have the guts and courage to admit their wrongs and learn something positive from it. A mistake is acceptable, only if we are ready to learn from it and promise not to repeat them in future.
Mostly people fall to negative web due to this thought of whether it's right or wrong. Well, how can you overcome this?
I would like to suggest you to introspect yourself before you jump over to conclusions while taking decisions. Usually taking decisions tend to give us tensions. Just because we don't know whether it's right or wrong. Let me tell you it's alright to be wrong. Every one commits mistakes in life. What's important is realizing you had done wrong and trying to rectify it by admitting you are wrong. We always find fault with others,
none of us introspect ourselves before we judge others. None of us are perfect. We do make mistakes, even others does. Without committing mistakes how ll you ever learn.
Mistakes helps you learn something new .. Improve yourself. In a game, no two player team can win ,and one of them fails,but that doesn't stops them from playing again,they never tend to give up on them ..they rather try to improve their score. Just like that try to learn from mistakes and improve yourself rather than blaming yourself for it life long..
There's no use of crying over the split milk.. just focus on your blessings .. and improve yourself..
Never let your mistakes judge you or pull you down..rather let it nourish you to a better human being... mistakes are necessary part of life, one of the important thing to remember is have courage to admit them before you judge others for their faults.

BREAK THE CAGE

In this post, Iam going to share a emotion or circumstance of life that we all go through. Staying positive I know is sometimes too hard and maybe hardest task. It is something that I've also been struggling with recently. There are things such as work stress, lack of sleep, bad habits, relationships with people around you that aren't going right and that feeling of being little bit lost that can truly make a person  start to feel that negative spin. What we must realize is that it is okay to feel like this. You could feel exasperated or angry. Maybe you ll feel sad or worried. However you feel you must know that you are allowed to feel this way,it's a natural phenomenon of life. These feelings shouldn't be something that must  push you right back down because you feel you shouldn't feel that way. It will eat you up inside. But once you have felt that feeling and embraced it for what it is, you must try and get back up. Look for the positive things in life, count on your blessings..

I have shared a picture with you..it's a picture which depicts how a bird is trying to break the wall around it.. all of us are like thaat bird..caged within us who desired to fly heights freely.. why is it not possible.. because we are not ready to push ourselves or change our attitude..

It's completely okay to feel low and negative but not okay to forget or stick on that thought that force you to feel low.. only you can help yourself! Accept it, embrace each moment of  life..analyse yourself..life has alot to offer you..what I does during this point of time is i try to assess myself and figure a solution for it..I write down positivity..I listen to music..i travel in to the world books.. maybe one should figure what's the real option making you feel relaxed and composed..it's not just a emotion..it's much more than that... 

Well !! When it come to people around you, try to find something to be inspired about each person's personality..everyone has something to teach you.. a dog teaches you loyalty and faithfulness..a cat teaches you neatness n to be tidy.. every little things in life must inspire you.. OBSERVE around you.. slowly you ll learn to figure out how, what, when and why..😊

KEEP SMILING..😊 YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY..😊😊x

YOUR BANK ACCOUNT

Imagine you had a bank account that deposited $86,400 each morning. The account carries over no balance from day to day, allows you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every dollar each day! We all have such a bank. Its name is Time. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever time you have failed to use wisely. It carries over no balance from day to day. It allows no overdraft so you can’t borrow against yourself or use more time than you have. Each day, the account starts fresh. Each night, it destroys an unused time. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, it’s your loss and you can’t appeal to get it back. There is never any borrowing time. You can’t take a loan out on your time or against someone else’s. The time you have is the time you have and that is that.

Time management is yours to decide how you spend the time, just as with money you decide how you spend the money. It is never the case of us not having enough time to do things, but the case of whether we want to do them and where they fall in our priorities.

This small piece of writing I found while i was reading a magazine.
It all matters of time, be patient things will work out one or other day like how you always wants that to be. Patience counts. It took almost 2 years for me to be independent and back on track after a major stroke. Thanking my physiotherapist Dr.Aftab Hussain and my neurosurgeon Dr.Rajesh Madathil. Everything has it's own time. Without patience, you can't achieve anything on time. Give time for everything to fall into place. Earth took it's own time to nurture and grow to the world we live in today.

THE BLACK DOT..

This time also Iam going to share with you a small story that happened during my school days,
One day, our teacher entered our classroom and asked us to prepare for a surprise test. We all waited anxiously at our desks for the exam to begin. The teacher handed out the exams with the text facing down, as usual. Once she handed them all out, she asked us to turn over the papers. To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions–just a black dot in the center of the paper. The teacher seeing the expression on everyone’s faces, told us the following: “I want you to write about what you see there.” We were, confused, got started on the inexplicable task. At the end of the class, the teacher took our papers, and started reading each one of them out loud in front of all the students. All of us, with no exception, defined the black dot, trying to explain its position in the center of the sheet. After all had been read, the classroom silent, our teacher started to explain: “I’m not going to grade you on this, I just wanted to give you something to think about. No one wrote about the white part of the paper. Everyone focused on the black dot – and the same thing happens in our lives. However, we insist on focusing only on the black dot – the health issues that bother us, the lack of money, the complicated relationship with a family member, the disappointment with a friend. The dark spots are very small when compared to everything we have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our minds.”
We human beings tend to focus on fatality always in our lives too and in other people we see..from every individual we have something to learn and to be inspired.. each one of them we encounter has a story to tell from which we could learn new perspectives about life.
For instance, if we take a cat or a dog as an example, we can see how tidy a cat is and how faithful and loving a dog is. Every creature in this planet teaches us something,all we need to do is to change our perspective. If our labour doesn't bore fruit, that doesn't mean it ll always remain the same.. it will change.. all we need to have is PATIENCE.. Everything takes its own time from the planet to revolve around the sun to a mother to give birth to a child. Have patience, things ll happen when it's your time..wait and experience what God has in store for you.
LET'S FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE SIDE and LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST.. BE PROPITIOUS AND AFFIRMATIVE....

EVEN THE HARDEST PUZZLES HAVE A SOLUTION...

This time our post is about Solution. Maybe we all tend to have this thought every time I am undergoing problems in life than others. Do you know every problem has a solution.
Generally most of us don't look at the positive side of finding a solution to our problems. We tend to always to always focus on the problem, rather than the solution to it. The more one focuses on the problem, it doubles up..
Everyone has underwent problems in life. It's not about problem,it's all about finding a right solution for it. Give energy for your solutions not on your problems.
One day for the first time, i was preparing fresh lime water. While preparing i ended up adding five time the lemon juice amount than it needed. Resulting lime water was disaster. It was so sour that no one could even take one sip of it. Now, i had to make it right anyhow. I wish if i could remove extra lemon juice from the water but some things can never be undone. There is no way to remove lemon juice from the water. So what is solution?
The only way to correct it was to add four more glasses of water to the already made lime water and dilute the lemon juice to make five glasses of fresh lime water. Now, if we think about life it is same. Sometimes we do things which cannot be undone. Some wrong decisions, wrong choices, wrong doings, wrong actions can never be undone. So what is solution?
When we cannot undo things and correct what ever wrong happened, we should not waste more time over it. It would be like trying to remove lemon juice from lime water. Instead, If things get wrong and cannot be undone then we should get busy in adding so many right things in our life that the wrong seems insignificant. We all have negative sides to ourselves and we may not be able to correct all our negativities but we can definitely try to continue adding positive thoughts, actions, people in our lives and dilute negativity. We all have been through lows in our life and we cannot change that But if we add new highs in our life, we will be able to dilute lows. is not it? In the end Life will seem “Mostly High”. We all had mistakes in our life and have bitter memories but we can get busy making and adding new happy memories now. We should try to do a lot of good things and concentrate on making life more positive today so that we can dilute bad things which ever happened or done by us in past.
There are 2ways to solve a problem
accept it,change it. If you can't accept it, change it. Change your attitude towards the problems, sonner or later you will find a solution.
It's said that every problem has a solution in itself

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COMPARE WITH YOURSELF

This month our post is about something that we all does or did in our life at least once..and that's Comparison. Comparing our life with that of other's. Comparison has two faces .. positive and negative , before we get into its discussion..let me share with you a small message about how birds are in times of adversity..
Have you ever observed the behaviour of birds in the face of adversity? For days and days they make their nest, sometimes gathering materials brought from far away. And when they have completed the nest and are ready to lay eggs, the weather or by humans, or some animals, destroys it, and it falls to the ground, all that they have done with so much effort. Do they stop... Bewildered, and leave their work ? No Way !! They start over building the nest again and again until they have eggs in the nest again. Sometimes, and very often before the chicks are hatched, an animal, a child, or a storm destroys the nest once again, but this time with its valuable contents. It hurts to go back and begin again.....Even so, the birds do not stop, they continue to sing and build , and keep singing and building. Do you sometimes get the feeling that your life, your work, your family is not what you had dreamed. 
Do you sometimes want to say 'ENOUGH', the effort is not worthwhile. It is all too much for me! Are you tired of it all? Do you feel that the daily struggle is a waste of time, your trust has been betrayed, your goals not reached, just as you were about to get them? Life strikes you down sometimes, but keep moving, say a prayer, put your faith in hope, not in murkiness? Do not worry Gather yourself together and rebuild your life, so that it runs well again.
So how is this related to comparison..
Well, it's related, if the birds started comparing their lives with that of other beings, they ll never be able to rebuild their lives during adversity..all they did was they BELIEVED IN THEMSELVES. So the more you compare, more the energy you tend to lose to persons with whom you compare..and degrade yourself. I won't say one mustn't compare, you must, but always compare with yourself each day. How better you are ,compared to previous day or year. Sometimes we search for far things that are very close to us. We tend to forget to look into ourselves. You are special the way your are.
The sun and the moon shines when it's their time. Believe in yourself and wait for your time. It takes patience and time for great things to come on your way. What I do is, I compare myself everyday. How far i have improved from yesterday. Even a single moment of my paralyzed fingers are my greatest achievements from that of it's moment on previous day.
All my post topics or heads I tend to generate from others...the issues they face in life and what makes them pessimistic....while I converse with them. Well, this one is specially for one of my friend Priyanka and few of my other friends..well, maybe all of us does.
,we nvr seems to believe in our power rather compare our  life with those of others and question God for our existence. God has given this life to fulfill a purpose..for everyone. Remember you can achieve more than you believe. You are much more than what you believe you are. Your life isn't going the way that of others, then why comparing. No one is perfect, if anyone ever have been ..then I believe it's God. Always believe in yourself and go ahead in life..when you spend time looking on to others life ,you ll end up wasting your life reaching nowhere..compare yourself , your success, your achievements not how others live their life. It helps you to undrstd where you are standing in your life. Try to be better than yesterday.
LIFE IS NOT A RACE TO WIN..like the birds rebuild yourself and grow stronger and wiser. In the tortoise and hare tale, if the tortoise had compared with the hare, he ll never be able to take part in that race and WIN. NEVER COMPARE WITH OTHERS..RATHER COMPARE WITH YOURSELF..

Appreciation can make a day...

2017 during the previous year , my fingers nor my hands were not flexible as much as now..but right now iam able to braid my short hair, tie it..,im slowly being independent again, i could open and close my fingers far better than before..it's a been 2 years!
I started this blog on my birthday(JAN 3rd) as a new step towards my positive life..and this post won't be complete if i don't thank Almighty,my dear viewers, my parents , family, love, friends and not last but the foremost one ..my physiotherapist for this drastic change in my hand functions and for his midas touch.. Thanks to one and all.. when all of us are flooded with new year wishes and messages..what I would like to share with all of you in this year is the art of appreciation..
What do you mean by appreciation? Why do one need to appreciate? How do you practise this in your day to day life.. Well it's simple.. think how far you hav come up in life.. all of us had gone through some or other forms of hinderencs to survive in the sea called life.. right now it's time for us to appreciate that survival.. there are little things in life that you need to be counted as your blessings.. even the way you move your hands and legs are the blessings of your life..because out there lot of people are suffering after amputation or by birth deformities..if I share with you about my condition..that is my fingers needs little more actions..that it's lacking.. that's alright ..I have come out of my first stage of stroke..What I do to feel positive is..before I go to bed..I practise a simple thing..that's nothing but expressing my gratitude to God for yet another day and also appreciating all those tiny efforts I took on that particular day for making myself better..it's simply a kind of self motivation..
In daily life, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy. As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them..
Appreciate yourself and also others ..for their efforts.. the lesser you focus on problems.. the more you attract positivity into life..Appreciation and Gratitude is two sides of a coin without them one can't feel positive vibes..
We always hold a strange fantasy in life everything must go as per our plan..we need our plans to be executed in life..we're humans not God..He always has better plans for you..once something turns upside down we tend to look back and cry over what we lost..on the other hand we never think of our so far achievements instead we cry over the spilt milk..Do you know even a crossing the sea of survival called life is an great achievement.. Count on to every little things in your life..embrace and appreciate every moment..LIVE..that's important..
What makes us sad is we look back at what we have lost..rather try to enjoy little things of life..you 'll see drastic change in your life..I believe whatever happened in my life is for good..and I don't regret or waste my time looking at what I have lost..I enjoy n express my gratitude to God for this second chance in life..

Let's make this year (2018 )Wonderful one ..Let's turn a new leaf..
I thank you all for being a part of my beautiful journey(2017).. Once again A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR..Let the almighty give us strength to withstand all the storms of our life.. And Appreciation can actually makes a day..

appreciate everything and everyone around us and within us..by appreciating others we actually make ourselves positive..and same vice verse,i.e, by degradating others we actually goes go down in our life..